The other day I googled the word "sex" and found that there were over 1, 210, 000, 000 results. Needless to say, sex is a very popular and powerful topic. Not only is sex a popular and powerful topic, but it can be the source of problems in marriage. Many couples have indicated their love life is in trouble. Others say their sexual intimacy in their marriage is non-existent. This is a sad reality, but it is not a hopeless reality. God has a lot to say about sex (Genesis 1:28; 2:18; 2:23-25 and 1 Corinthians 7:2-5). Whereas these principles may be directed toward married couples, singles will benefit and be able to apply these principles as well.

In order to fully enjoy something, we must understand the purpose of it. This begs the question: So, why did God give us such a beautiful yet powerful gift anyway?

God created sex for us to proclaim a spiritual truth.

Sex is not just about skin-to-skin. It is a physical expression of a spiritual truth. This truth is spiritual and emotional oneness. Sex is as much a spiritual and emotional mystery as it is a physical act. When God created man and woman, he created them to be spiritual and emotional beings. They were designed to connect with God. They were designed to connect with one another. They were created to be in tune with one another's needs for love, intimacy, closeness and companionship. The spiritual and emotional closeness and oneness are naturally expressed through the physical act of sex. When a couple is sexually intimate with one another, God designed it so that they would be actually proclaiming "we are one" on all levels – physically, emotionally and spiritually. Now, to have sex without this oneness, cheapens and devalues this wonderful gift God has given a husband and wife. To have sex without this spiritual and emotional oneness is really a lie. The physical intimacy gives a false impression that we're something that we're not. Someone might be saying, "Since I am not one with my partner, then I don't have to have sex with my spouse." This is the wrong conclusion, and according to 1 Corinthians 7, it’s unbiblical. The question we should ask is "How do we become one spiritually and emotionally, so that when we do come together sexually, we will loudly proclaim the oneness that God intended from the beginning.

God created sex to provide mutual pleasure.

Sex was designed for a husband and wife to be mutually fulfilled and pleasured physically. Sex is one of the most beautiful and pleasurable gifts that God created. God gave us the gift of sex for us to enjoy it in the context of marriage. Let me say that again. God gave us sex to enjoy in the context of marriage. (My single men and women, wait. God is faithful). Now when we are faithful in proclaiming the truth of spiritual and emotional oneness (praying together, sacrificing together, laughing together, crying together, encouraging one another to be our best for God, working together to build our lives in his Kingdom), there is heightened sexual pleasure and fulfillment. The opposite is true as well. When we are not living in oneness, there is a lack of sexual fulfillment and pleasure. I mean, we go through the motions because of marital obligations, but the sex is not as pleasurable as God intended it to be. With the exception of legitimate physical problems, a non-existent sex life or a troubled sex life, within marriage, is a symptom of deeper problems of oneness. Sex can be great and extremely pleasurable, but it was never meant to be strong enough to sustain a relationship. When we engage in sexual intimacy, it should remind us of the spiritual and emotional oneness God intended for us to have from the beginning.

God created sex to produce godly offspring.

The first command that God ever gave human beings was to be fruitful, multiply, and replenish the earth. Why? He gave this command not just for the sake of having a lot babies, but because from the beginning, God wanted his glory to fill the earth. He expected godly couples to have God-honoring sex to produce godly offspring so that people all over the world would love and worship a holy God.

Good sex, in the context of marriage, proclaims a spiritual truth of emotional and spiritual oneness, provides mutual pleasure and produces godly children for the glory of God. Good sex begins with God's view of sex.